Change?
Alright, so im awake and refreshed cause i slept relatively early yesterday, 12:30am considering i’ve been sleeping at 4am the past 6 days. It feels good, but i dont get to do my reflection post of the whole day so i guess i’ll do those in the morning before i go out or something. So yesterday i was actually soooo bored that i downloaded counterstrike back on to my laptop so that i could play with my little brother. Right now, its downloading a bunch of shit so i can play which is giving me the time to blog. Alright soo this is actually day 3 of the braids and people are telling me that i look like Trey Songz. Personally, i dont think so and so does a couple others but im pretty sure i dont cause first of all hes black and i am not lol. One of these people who doesnt think i look like Trey Songz is my sister, the reason being is because that’s her celebrity crush and nobody wants their sibling looking like their celebrity crush, so i dont blame her. But on a different note, today is actually an important day, i dont wanna expose anything or anyone including myself so.. this is the day that we’re gonna see if anything has changed. Sorry for the vague description but theres no other way to explain it. But, what i CAN tell you is that if this specific person has changed then, lets just say my life will take an unexpected turn. But what do you do when your soo accustomed to a specific way you are with someone like your bestfriend and the next time you see them after awhile(couple weeks to a month) and they’re changed? By changed i mean, talk differently, act differently, numerous awkward moments and the vibe just isnt there anymore. My question to you is: ”Would you just deal with the change? “or “Try and get things back the way they used to be. And how would you do it?”
NUFF SAID.
This is probably unexpected that I would comment, but here’s my long response. lol:
Um, I think you kinda do look like him, but ONLY because of the braids and the lips. lol, other than that, no resemblance. And well, about your question, I think it depends on the kind of change. If the change is overall positive, or at least good for them personally, then it’d be a bit selfish for you to get things back the way they were before. However, if the friendship is suffering, or like you said, “the vibe just isn’t there anymore”, then just talk to them about it. I don’t really know the situation, nor is it any of my business, so it’s hard to give a direct opinion. But, whatever. Hopefully it helped a little bit? :S .. Good luck with it though (yn). Just make sure you take your time with everything and work on it first. If it happens to be that your life has to change, then remember that everything happens for a reason.
skippingbackwards - April 29, 2009 at 8:14 pm |
OKAY FINE, I’LL ANSWER YOUR QUESTION.
I think you should just… analyze the situation. Make sure you realize that no matter how misguided someone can appear to be, we all have a general impression of how we want our lives, ourselves, to end up. That’s why we change. We slowly make our way towards becoming that “ideal person”.
When you know someone, when you have a close relationship with them, you know who they want to be and how they want to be. (Maybe even before they realize it themselves.) This is why you really need to pay attention to them! Whatever it is, you will find that both of you will eventually go through some changes in your own personal relationship with each other. That’s why it’s crucial to tell if you guys are growing up together (much like ourselves) or if you’re growing up, and apart. If they change and you find that they simply aren’t fitting into your life anymore, the “vibe” isn’t there anymore, then you need to think about whether or not this is just a phase that the person is going through. If so, deal with it; they’ll come back – there will be some hard times (i.e. Wanting to rip their head off/wanting nothing to do with them), but having a friendship that lasts is worth it in the end. If it isn’t just a phase, as much as you love them, it is possible to outgrow relationships, and that’s okay, too. (Except ours. Don’t you dare. You’re stuck with me, sorry!)
Just think about it. I can’t give you a straight answer because only this “specific person” can; it’s your relationship with them, and each one differs.
P.S. I made myself sound like such a pansy. I hope you’re happy now! And yeah… this was exactly the same thing I told you on the phone.
BGF - May 1, 2009 at 8:35 pm |